Men becoming dependent, less independent

Dr M: Men becoming dependent, less independent
By: Hemananthani Sivanandam (Wed, 04 Nov 2009)


PUTRAJAYA (Nov 4, 2009) : Former Prime Minister Tun Dr Mahathir Mohamad went on an attack mode against men, saying men are becoming more relaxed and dependent on women.

Tun Dr Mahathir Mohamad deliver his speech during The Role of
Women and Youth in National Development at the 10th Perdana
Discourse series.
Delivering his keynote address on The Role of Women and Youth in National Development at the 10th Perdana Discourse series, Mahathir said women have become major contributors in the development of the country.

"We cannot discount the contribution women make in the workforce albeit some areas are dominated by men," said Mahathir.

He said currently women outnumber men in universities and make more effort to contribute to the country’s development compared to men.

"Men are not really making the effort in contributing to development. When someone does a good job, we become dependent on them.

"It’s the same with men. Men are no longer independent because they depend on women to do the job," said Mahathir adding women will eventually dominate the society and men will loose their position of authority.

Mahathir also urged youth to be patient and equip themselves with the knowledge and skills required to contribute to the development of the country.

"I find youth these days to be impatient. They demand for opportunities to be given to them but fail to implement them," said the 84-year-old elder statesman.

He said although youths these days are intellectual, their drive to become leaders and show off their credibility should be backed with credentials and qualification.

"I was a youth once and I was eager to show my credibility but I realised I should have the qualifications for people to take me more seriously," said Mahathir.

He said youth should not presume they know better than the older generation as experience comes with time.

"If they are equipped with the knowledge, then they will be in a better position to take over from us and build a great nation," said Mahathir.

Meanwhile during a question and answer session, the former Umno president said the party’s leadership should realise that it is getting smaller because leaders at lower levels are preventing young, qualified professionals to join Umno.

"This is the fault of a system which has been abused. When someone who is qualified wants to join a branch, they can’t get to be a member because the branch leader may find them threatening," said Mahathir.

"Umno must have good leaders and to have good leaders, it needs more people but branch leaders sideline all these qualified young professionals so he will be able to dominate the branch," he added.

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ASIAN men are just too lazy to be romantic.

Tuesday, June 30th, 2009 02:39:00

OH! David and a copy of his book
ASIAN men are just too lazy to be romantic.

"As men are goal-oriented they are likely to pursue a woman with romantic gestures but once she is his, he takes a back seat, so does the caring romantic measures," said David Oh, author of Café David: Serving Coffee for the Soul - Relationships.

However, all is not lost. David believes that Asian men have evolved in the past 30 years and that with more education and having women voicing their opinions, men too will soon be better with the matters of the heart.

"With time and a change in mindset, I believe men too will be able to show someone they cherish how special she truly is," he said.

The 38-year-old student of people recently got married to his good friend Shirley Boon, whom he proposed to during a holiday in Langkawi last year.

"Shirley and I are really good friends and we understand each other's love language."

The five love languages, ascertained by relationship expert Gary Chapman are words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service and physical touch.

David strongly believes that one should show their partner how much they care about them by showing it with the partner's love language.

"You can get hints of their love language from daily conversations. Listen and you will know what sort of investment your partner is looking for," explained reality television shows buff David.

The book, Café David, focuses on the tricky business of relationships - friends, family and of course, the special sweetheart.

It is a combination of insights, questions and little lessons on how to deal with issues with life including friendship, expectations and chemistry.

The inspiration for a relationship-centric book came from David's blog, Café David.com.

An active blogger since the year 2005, he decided to come up with a book after receiving feedback from visitors to the blog.

"I've learnt a lot from the comments posted on the blog and wanted to share my take on life and especially relationships to the young adults in Malaysia," added the busy entrepreneur who also heads a consulting firm as well as publishing company DashFusion.

Citing inspirations such as Gary Chapman and his own pastor Kong, David is passionate about lifting people's quality of life. He hopes his book will reach out to Malaysians to have better relationships in their lives.

Café David: Serving Coffee for the Soul - Relationships will soon be available at bookshops. For more information about the book visit David's blog.