ASIAN men are just too lazy to be romantic.

Tuesday, June 30th, 2009 02:39:00

OH! David and a copy of his book
ASIAN men are just too lazy to be romantic.

"As men are goal-oriented they are likely to pursue a woman with romantic gestures but once she is his, he takes a back seat, so does the caring romantic measures," said David Oh, author of Café David: Serving Coffee for the Soul - Relationships.

However, all is not lost. David believes that Asian men have evolved in the past 30 years and that with more education and having women voicing their opinions, men too will soon be better with the matters of the heart.

"With time and a change in mindset, I believe men too will be able to show someone they cherish how special she truly is," he said.

The 38-year-old student of people recently got married to his good friend Shirley Boon, whom he proposed to during a holiday in Langkawi last year.

"Shirley and I are really good friends and we understand each other's love language."

The five love languages, ascertained by relationship expert Gary Chapman are words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service and physical touch.

David strongly believes that one should show their partner how much they care about them by showing it with the partner's love language.

"You can get hints of their love language from daily conversations. Listen and you will know what sort of investment your partner is looking for," explained reality television shows buff David.

The book, Café David, focuses on the tricky business of relationships - friends, family and of course, the special sweetheart.

It is a combination of insights, questions and little lessons on how to deal with issues with life including friendship, expectations and chemistry.

The inspiration for a relationship-centric book came from David's blog, Café David.com.

An active blogger since the year 2005, he decided to come up with a book after receiving feedback from visitors to the blog.

"I've learnt a lot from the comments posted on the blog and wanted to share my take on life and especially relationships to the young adults in Malaysia," added the busy entrepreneur who also heads a consulting firm as well as publishing company DashFusion.

Citing inspirations such as Gary Chapman and his own pastor Kong, David is passionate about lifting people's quality of life. He hopes his book will reach out to Malaysians to have better relationships in their lives.

Café David: Serving Coffee for the Soul - Relationships will soon be available at bookshops. For more information about the book visit David's blog.